I was recently asked to be on a panel re: Women's History month. My first reaction was, I'm not sure I have anything unique to say. In fact, to my knowledge, I've never been discriminated against and I've been given a lot of privilege. I had a head start unlike many others. And what I realized is the head start was because of women like my aunt...
In the 1950's, Claire Castellini Thornton Wilger was in her early 20's when her father, my grandfather, died. Due to a massive heart attack, he left a wife, 8 children and a produce business. She stepped up, worked at Castellini Company for 50+ years and raised 5 incredible children. Here's what she taught me.
Own your professional development. No one else is going to do it for you. My aunt used to read the Wallstreet journal to her father on the way to work, every day. And after he was gone, she continued to absorb as much knowledge as she could. So, make time and spend money on your learning. It will always have a great return. A coaching client time blocks 1 hour per week to learn from thought leaders in her industry. She is extremely busy, has immense responsibility and she knows she must continue to invest in herself.
Enroll others as your advocates. My aunt told me that for many years she could not meet with bankers without a man being present. Can you believe this? She could not have a conversation about a business loan or the the company's money without a man being present. I was appalled! But when I shared my frustration, she reminded me of her gratitude for the friends and siblings on my grandfather who showed up and sat right by her side. There was never any resentment; she appreciated them and never considered herself less than. So, if you are the only woman in the room, embrace it. It's an opportunity to influence and build relationships. I've rarely found anyone who didn't want to collaborate. In fact, they usually become my advocates. Don't be shy to ask for help or learn from the person sitting right next to you!
Be fearless. In my eyes, my aunt is still fearless. At 95, she is still crushing it! She gets her hair done weekly; she is still on a non-profit board and she can host the most delicious luncheon. I know there were many times she was afraid but I think through faith and support from friends and family, she was able to overcome many obstacles and achieve her dreams.
Finally, she didn't have this because many women did not work outside of the home but I believe it is important to have a tribe of women who help you along the way. My inner circle has held me up when I was scared; encouraged me when I was working hard and loved me when I made mistakes. This type of connection and support is what I believe we need to celebrate for Women's history month - that's one of our gifts to the world - connection. So, if you are struggling to get up and face another challenging work day, remember, there were some badass women who paved the way for us.
Happy Women's History Month,
Sarah
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